Guys i am starting a mini series of 4 weeks of sharing and specially i will deal with the issue of what kind of family SP.Primers really are. So i hope you enjoy what i am about to bring you and get more guys to come here and read k. Thanks.
This is an excerpt from one of my favourite author Max Lucado.
"Five year old Madeline climbed into her father's lap.
"Did you have enough to eat?" he asked her.
She smiled and patted her tummy. "I can't eat any more."
"Did you have some of your grandma's pie?"
"a whole piece!"
joe looked across the table at his mom."looks like you filled us up. Don't think we'll be able to do anything tonight but go to bed."
Madeline put her litle hands on either side of his big face."oh, but. Poppa, this is christmas eve. you said we could dance."
Joe feigned a poor memory."did i now? Why, i don't remember saying anything about dancing."
Grandma smiled and shooked her head as she began clearing the table.
"but poppa," madeline pleaded," we always dance on christmas eve. just you and me, remember?"
A smile burst from beneath his thick mustache."of course i remember, darling. How could i forget?"
and with that he stood and took her hand in his and for a moment, just a moment his wife was alive again, and the two were walking into the den to spend another night before christmas as they had spent so many dancing away the evening.
They would have danced the rest of their lives, but then came the surprise pregnancy and the complications. Madline survived . But her mother did not, and joe the thick-handed butcher from minnesota, was left to raise his Madeline along.
"come on poppa." she tugged on his hand." lets dance before everyone arrives." She was right. Soon the doorbell would ring and the relatives would fill the floor and the night would be past.
But, for now, it was just Poppa and Madeline.
Rebellion flew into Joe's world like a Minnesota blizzard. about the time she was old enough to drive, madeline decided she was old enough to lead her life. and that life did not include her father.
"i should have seen it coming,"joe would later say."but for the life of me i didn't." He didn't know what to do. He didn't know how to handle the pierced nose and the tight skirts. He didn't understand the late nights and the poor grades. and most of all, he didn't know when to speak and when to be quiet.
She, on the other hand, had it all figured out. She knew when to speak to her father- never. She knew when to be quiet- always. The pattern was reversed, however with the lanky, tattooed kid from down the street. He was no good and joe knew it.
And there was no way he was going to allow his daughter to spend christmas eve with that kid.
"you'll be with us tonight, young lady. you'll be at your grandma's house eating your grand's pie. You'll be with us on christmas eve."
though they were at the same table, they might as well have been on different sides of town. madeline played with her food and said nothing. Grandma tried to talk to joe, but he was in no mood to chat. Part of him was angry; part of him was heartbroken. And the rest of him would have given anything to know how to talk to this girl who once sat on his lap.
sonn the relatives arrived, bringing with them a welcome end to the awkward silence. As the room filled with noise and people, joe stayed on one side, madline sat sullenly on the other.
"put on the music, joe," reminded one of his brothers. and so he did. thinking she would be honored, he turned and walked toward his daughter. "will you dance with your poppa tonight?"
the way she huffed and turned, you'd have thought he'd insulted her.
in full view of the family, she walked out on the front door and marched down the sidewalk. leaving her father alone. Very alone.
Madeline came back that night but not for long. Joe never faulted her for leaving. After all , what's it like being the daughter of a butcher? In their last days together he tried so hard. He made her favourite dinner- she didn't want to eat. He invited her to a movie- she stayed in her room. He bought her a new dress- she didn't even say thank you. and then there was that spring day he left work early to be at the house when she arrived home from school.
would'nt you know that was the day she never came home.
a friend saw her and her boyfriend in the vincintiy of the bus station. The authorities confirmed the purchase of a ticket to chicago; where she went from there was anybody's guess.
The scrawny boy with the tattoos had a cousin. the cousin worked the night shift at a convenience store south of Houston. for a few bucks a month, he would let the runaways stay in his apartment at night, but they had to be out during the day.
which was fine with them. they had big plans. he was going to be a mechanic, and madeline just knew she could get a job at a department store. of course he knew nothing about cars, and she knew even less about getting a job- but you don't think of things like that when you're intoxicated on freedom.
After a couple of weeks, the cousin changed his mind, and the day he announced his decision, the boyfiend announced his. Madeline found herself facing the night with no place to sleep or hand to hold.
it was the first of many such nights.
a woman in the park told her about the homeless shelter near the bridge. for a couple of bucks she could get a bowl of soup and a cot. a couple of bucks was about all she had. she used her backpack as a pillow and jacket as a blanket. the room was so rowdy it was hard to sleep. madeline turned her face to the wall and for the first time in several days, thought of the whiskered face of her father as he would kiss her good night. But as her eyes began to water, she refused to cry. She pushed the memory deep inside and determined not to think about home.
She'd gone too far to go back.
The next morning the girl in the cot beside her showed her a fistful of tips she'd made from dancing on tables." this is the last night i'll have to stay her." she said. "now i can pay for my own place. they told me they are looking for another girl. you should come by." she reached into her pocket and pulled out a matchbook." here's the address."
madeline's stomach turned at the thought. all she could do was mumble, "i'll think about it."
she spent the rest of the week on the streets looking for work. at the end of the week when it was time to pay her bill at the shelter, she reached into her pocket and pulled out the matchbook. it was all she had left.
"i won't be staying her tonight," she said and walked out the door.
hunger has a way of softening convictions
if madeline knew anything, she knew how to dance. her father had taught her. now men the age of her father watched her. She didn't rationalise it-she just didn't think about it. madeline simply did her work and took their dollars.
She might have never thought about it, except for the letters. the cousin brought them. not one, or two but a box full. All addressed to her. All from her father.
"your old boyfiredn must have squealed on you. these come two or three a week," comlpained the cousin. "give him your address." oh but she couldn't do that. He might find her.
nor could she bear to open the envelopes, she knew what they said; he wanted her home. But if he knew what she was doing, he would not be writing.
it seemed less painful not to read them. So she didn't not that week, nor the next when the cousin brought more, nor the next when he came again. she kept them in the dressing room at the cludb, organized according to postmark. she ran her finger over the top of each but couldn't bring herself to open one.
most days madeline was able to numb the emotions. thoughts of home and thoughts of shame was shoved into the same part of her heart. But there were occassions when the thoughts were too strong to resist.
Like the time she saw a dress in the clothing store window. a dress the same colour as one her father had purchased for her. A dress that had been too far too plain for her. with much reluctance she had put it on and stood before the mirror. "my, you are as tall as i am." he had told her. She had stiffened at his touch.
seeing her weary face reflected in the store window, madeline realized she'd give a thousand dresses to fell his arm again. she left the store and resolved not to pass by it again.
in time the leaves fell and the air chilled. the mail came and cousin complained and the stack of letters grew. still she refused to send him an address. and she refused to read a letter.
then a few days before christmas eve another letter arrvied. same shape. same colour. but this one had no postmark. and it was not delivered by the cousin. it was sitting on her dressing room table.
"a couple of days ago a big man stopped by and asked me to give this to you." explained one of the other dancers."said you'd understand the message."
"he was here?" she asked anxiously.
the woman shrugged."supposed he had to be."
Madeline swallowed hard and look at the envelope. she open it and removed the card. "i know where you are," it read. " i know what you do. This doesn't change the way i feel. what i've said in each letter is still true."
"but i don't know what you've said," madeline declared. she pulled a letter from the top stack and read it. then a second and a third. each letter had the same sentence. each sentence asked the same question.
in a matter of moments the floor was littered with paper and her face was streaked with tears.
within a hour she was on a bus. "i just might make it in time."
she barely did.
the relatives were starting to leave. joe was helping grandma in the kitchen when his brother called from the suddenly quiet den. "joe someone is here to see you."
joe stepped out of the kitchen and stopped. in one hand the girl held a backpack. in the other she held a card. joe saw the question in her eyes.
" the anwer is 'yes,'"she said to her father."if the invitation is still good, the answer is 'yes'"
joe swallowed hard. "oh my. the invitation is good."
and so the two danced again on christmas eve.
on the floor, near the door, rested a letter with Madeline's name her father's request.
"will you come home and dance with your poppa again?"
I dunno about you, but i teared when i read this. And this is a journey i have already went thru' and it hurts as badly as it is written. But that is really what Primers is all about. We are a family of leaders that will learn what it means to be a real man and woman. Thats the basis of why this club exists, we are not here to build a cca but we are here to build lives and i know there are many teenages out there with broken lives, people who feel like the daughter and is so far away from the love of the parents.
Guys lets get serious, and i challenged you to be with us Primers as we journey thru' this passage the next 3 weeks to explain what kind of family we really are. But i also need your paticipation in this k. I hope you will write to me what you feel each week as you read this series and share with me your thoughts and your personal experience. the mails you write to me will be confidential and will not be circulated.
My email is
letitbelorprimers@yahoo.comChat with you next week.
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Date: 05 - 06 Jan 07, Fri - Sat
Finally the program started with two emcees to come up and gave an overview of the program before passing the microphone to the chairperson of SP Primers. The emcees did a really great job at giving us an overview and seems like there is going to be a lot of fun-filled activities lined-up for everyone.
